Sunrise over the Golden Gate and Love

I’ve been working on getting caught up on editing my personal pictures lately, I’m 6 months behind, and we take a lot of photos, which is a good thing. But that’s not the point of my story.

My story takes place in San Francisco, and starts with this photo.

Black and white portrait.

This picture was taken about 6 am right as the sun peaked over San Francisco, and as I look at it now, I think about how it’s one of my most favorite pictures of my wife ever. She’s just so beautiful. Her hair blowing in the wind takes me back to the chilly wind we felt as we snuggled together watching the sunrise. This memory is just another one of the many I’ve experienced where I’ve fallen in love with my wife all over again. I love those experiences. The ones I’ll cherish forever. Days when it’s just me and her adventuring around wherever we happen to be….sharing laughter and smiles and talking about big dreams.

I mention this because I’m curious how may others have fallen in love with their partner all over again? Jenny is most definitely the person I’m supposed to be walking through my life with, and some days, it’s hard to see that. My marriage is the hardest thing I’ve ever done or ever will do. It’s harder than raising kids, harder than my jobs, harder than climbing a random mountain in Tennessee that doesn’t have a path but we climbed it anyway.

It’s also SO worth it. Sometimes I take Jenny for granted, sometimes we fight over stupid things like dropping the car off somewhere when we’re running late to Ava’s soccer game (again). Sometimes I lose my temper and put a hole in the wall. Shoes have been thrown through stair rails (at me, I might add, I wouldn’t throw a shoe, geez). I’ve said and done many things I instantly regretted to hurt her. And, yet, I lay my head down every single night, and snuggle next to Jenny knowing that she loves me SO much, and I love her with my whole heart. And, the stories we’re living together, matter.

That is why I’m glad I get to spend so much time with a woman who I want to fall in love with all over again and again. Think about this for a second. When you’re falling in love, what’s your life like? Remember how anxious you were to spend 4 hours talking on the phone. Remember how excited you were to see that person’s smile again. Remember how often you thought about surprising them with something, anything, knowing you just want to please them. But, as time goes on, the newness of newfound love wears off, and you’re left with a relationship that requires a lot of work. I want those surprises, the butterflies, the excitement to stay around forever. I want to continue to love my wife better and better until we die holding hands next to each other at the young age of 107. Call me a dreamer, and I’ll agree.

Love is the most important aspect of my life, and Jenny gets an awful lot of my love, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I really could ramble on and on, so I’ll get to the point…

Take a few moments today, and everyday after, and do something random, wild, fun and crazy with your partner. It could be a simple thing like slow dancing in the kitchen. Or bring home some cupcakes and feed them to each other (not nicely, just smash it in their face, I guarantee you’ll have a good time with it). Call your partner and use cheesy pickup lines in a robot voice. Buy her or him a new outfit and take them on a choose your own adventure date. Wake up early and watch the sunrise together, I guarantee magic will happen because that’s what sunrises are. Let go of all the crap that gets in the way of a solid relationship and focus on having fun and loving one another. I wish for everyone to have someone they get to fall in love with over and over again.

Please share some fun things you do together in the comments, I’m always up for new ways to have fun with my wife.

Couple watches sunrise over San Francisco.Smiling couple at the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco.

ps. Jenny – when you read through all my ramblings and get to the end of this post…I love you more than you’ll ever know. You & me, that’s where it’s at.

Josh Solar (624 Posts)

I am a: Joy Seeker. Big Dreamdoer. Family Adventurer. Connoisseur of fine music. Practitioner of Gratitude. Painter of Watercolors.


6 comments
natebags
natebags

I love you two humans so much.

israel_smith
israel_smith

Dude. It is entirely possible that we're long lost twins or something. This is such a beautiful dedication to the woman you love, and such a gorgeous insight into the reality of (I imagine) most marriages. Mine is like yours... mostly awesome, but sometimes really f*cking tough. 


And I love the suggestions you have for making some fun out of the everyday. (Off to buy cupcakes tomorrow. Don't tell my wife.)


Here's to being amazing husbands, and letting ourselves bleed our love all over the place in honour of the women who make us who we are. :)

RosemaryWineGustin
RosemaryWineGustin

My favorite is the one of you guys in silhouette with the bridge all lit up!  Gorgeous photos and beautiful words, Josh!  :)

happyfammvmt
happyfammvmt moderator

Thank you for your words! Here's to being an amazing husband. Stoked for the day we can all party together!