Five ways to be a happy mom when your kids are driving you crazy

five ways to be a happier mom when your kids are driving you crazy this summer

Some days I feel like my kids got together and hatched a plan to make mommy crazy. Seriously… and I think today is one of those days. Summer is so awesome… I just hate that we sometimes have days like today that seem to overshadow how awesome my kids are. I still have trouble understanding exactly WHY kids have to argue over the silliest things…

Max looked at Lia with a cheesy smile so she got mad. Max got out of the recliner and Ava sat down immediately then wouldn’t get up to unload the dishwasher because she didn’t want Max to get the chair back. Lia shut the van door before Max could get in. It goes on and on and on. You know what I’m talking about… I’m sure your kids do it too.

The worst though, is when they turn all their energy into making me crazy. Ava whines when I ask her to get her shoes so we can go to the store. Max bangs his spoon on the table 32 times, after I’ve asked him four times to stop. Lia has a meltdown because I forgot to go down the “big hill” on the way home.

We made a quick run to Target this morning to pick up FIVE things we needed. In the time it took me to get those five items off our shopping list, Ava and Lia got in a fight over who was allowed to touch the credit card application sign, Max kept throwing pop tarts in my cart, all three of them were climbing on the cart that I was trying to push, shoving each other off…

I turned down the sunscreen aisle and a Target worker asked me if I needed help finding anything. I asked him if they sold sanity. He just looked at me and said, “what?” I said, “do you sell sanity?” He said, “I don’t know what that is.” I said, “It was a joke,” and walked away, slightly embarrassed that he hadn’t understood my joke and now thought that I was indeed crazy and slightly disappointed that Target has not yet started selling sanity. I’m pretty sure I would pay a lot for it.

So I thought since you can’t buy sanity at Target, maybe I’d better sit down and write a list of things I can do to keep myself calm and happy when my kids are making me crazy this summer… You know, so on days like today, I can just pull up this list instead of locking myself in the bathroom with a book and a chocolate bar (although that helps too!). These are the things that help me… who knows, maybe they’ll help you too? Or at least inspire you to make your keep-mama-happy-this-summer list ūüôā

1. Treat yourself. Figure out what will make you happy and treat yourself to it. Maybe its a new book or a pedicure or two chocolate oreos. Whatever it is, just make it happen and don’t feel guilty about it. When I’m out and about with my kids and they’re being crazy in the backseat, I head straight for Quik Trip and get myself a 32 oz fountain soda. I’m telling you… it’s the little things n life.

2. Go out and do something. We’ve been out with our kids checking all kinds of stuff off our summer bucket list so far this summer. And the one thing I’ve noticed is that they behave a lot better when we’re out doing an activity instead of sitting at home. Now, I’m not saying we need to be out doing things everyday, but sometimes even a simple walk around the block is enough to change the whole mood of the day.

3. Date night/girls’ night. Drop the kids off at grandma’s or get a sitter and get out of the house! If you can’t do either, switch off with your spouse/significant other. Sometimes just getting away and having a little adult conversation and adventure is just what I need to get through a week’s worth of whining.

4. Invite friends over. Anytime my kids have other kids to play with, they instantly forget about antagonizing each other and fighting. Suddenly, there can be six kids or nine kids and they’re all just playing happily. And I can sit and drink a glass of wine and watch them run around like crazy people in the backyard.

5. Send them outside. I don’t know why my kids have been avoiding playing outside all summer. It hasn’t even been hot here. Seriously, it’s July 1st today and it’s 75 degrees right now. But as soon as I make them go outside to play, they stop having as many silly fights about toys and territory. They swing and slide and throw baseball to each other and ride their bikes. That’s the kind of stuff summer’s made of. And I’d much rather push them on a swing than play referee for a fight over a toy.

What’s your key to staying happy this summer when the kids get a little carried away? I’d love to hear it!

Jenny (290 Posts)

Jenny Solar is the co-founder of The Happy Family Movement and Phone Monsters, Inc. She's a wife to Josh and mama to three kiddos: Max, Ava, and Lia. She's passionate about creating memorable experiences for her family and inspiring others to do the same.


Must be in the air ... stinky day here and I sit with my large icy Diet Coke in hand! ;)  Love and agree with all of your tips!  Let's turn this day AROUND! (and start lobbying Target to SELL SANITY!  They'd make a killing!!)


He probably didn't have kids, otherwise he would have gotten your joke.  I totally feel you!  Can't we have 5 minutes without fighting?  FIVE MINUTES!?!?!  Is that too much to ask?  I love bedtime.  It is calm and dark and quiet in my house.  How about 15 oreos?  Ha!  And make them mint!  :)  I totally agree with sending them outside.  Even if it means they flood the backyard, it keeps them from fighting and totally wears them out!  And I'm thankful that everyday isn't like this.  It only seems that way.