Max is eight and lately he’s been grumpy. Like all the time. He’s at an age where all he wants to do is play video games. We’re not really big on video games, so that causes a lot of issues. He asks to play, we say no, he gets angry and storms off. It’s a difficult stage, to say the least.
We’re really big on family time and spending time outside and adventuring. Lately, Max has been refusing to anything with us… like taking a bike ride, going on a walk, even going to the park. He just says he doesn’t want to go.
Last Monday, Josh mentioned taking a walk as a family. Max said he wanted to stay home, so Josh took the girls and I stayed with Max. I tried convincing him to go on a bike ride or a walk with me and he kept saying no. I ended up throwing a bit of a mommy fit (surely I’m not the only one to do this!).
In the end, he decided to go on a bike ride with me and we had an incredible adventure! We biked the long trail by our house and found a creek. We took off our shoes and played in the creek and then we biked home. It was almost six miles roundtrip, so we had lots of time to chat about life during that time.
I posted about this on Facebook and my friend Dana called it ‘reluctance to transition’. And it’s really the perfect label for Max’s behavior lately… He was reluctant to transition from what he was doing to going on a bike ride with me. But the second he got on his bike, his entire mood changed and we had a great time.
I’ve been feeling hurt lately that Max has been so uninvolved in our family fun… feeling like he doesn’t want to be a part of our adventures. Thanks to our bike ride and Dana’s perspective, I realize that I was completely wrong. Max really does love hanging out with his family… he just needs some help making that transition.
I’ve tried giving him warnings like “at 5 pm, we’re going on a walk”, but he hasn’t responded well to that. For now, I’m just telling him he has to participate. As soon as we get him out the door, he’s great. I’d love to hear how you help your kids make that transition when they’re so resistant!
P.S. I didn’t bring a camera so these phones were taken on my iPhone. Please pardon the poor quality!